Q:How do I stop hating myself?
It’s not easy. It takes time and patience. There will be peaks and lows. But it is manageable, it really is. You can get to a good place: somewhere peaceful and bright that you barely recognise when you compare it to the day by day grey of your life before. Treat yourself like a friend. Treat yourself like a best friend. Take the attentive and nurturing patience you have always reserved for the people you love most in your life and apply it to yourself. When you mess up, comfort yourself. Forgive yourself over and over again, for the big and the small things. Get in touch with your body in some kind of creative or relaxing way. Take a dance class, do a yoga tutorial on Youtube, get a tattoo, do your make-up, dye your hair or shave it or grow it out. Help your outside to look more like your inside in a safe and artistic way. Let yourself indulge in things that make you happy. Listen to pop music if you want to, watch two star films when the feeling takes you. Talk to yourself. Encourage yourself. Give yourself rewards for things. Be very very gentle with you. You deserve kindness and respect and love. Allow yourself these things. Give yourself these things. Ask for help sometimes, and then love yourself for doing that, because it’s never easy. Pray. It helps. Eat well, sleep well, make art. Whether it’s music, poetry, sketches, dance, or something completely different. Maybe you like historical reenactments. Maybe you like video games. Maybe you like reading political magazines, or riding horses, or petting dogs. Whatever it is, go for it. Allow yourself joy. Heal and grow, and take all the time you need.